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Sadness and Madness

June 16, 2009, 6:41 am

Years ago I came across the entry for Nelson DeMille in Who's Who in America? in which the bestselling novelist said something along the lines of that there's no such thing as a retired novelist. This struck me instantly as true, much in the way the occasional singing line from Martin Amis does.

[Brief digression: When Mr. Amis does it - e.g., the line about how when you have a child of your own, you instantly forgive your own parents everything - I call these Amisisms, the moment of blinding truth almost immediately followed by a sense of, "What a crock! Still, he writes a gorgeous sentence!"]

But back to Mr. DeMille's line, which I liked so much and still do, because it expresses my own feeling that once you do this thing called writing it becomes a permanent and indelible part of who you are.

Still, are there retired novelists?

Actually, yes. Occasionally you'll even know about the retirement in advance. A P.D. James or a Colin Dexter will announce that after the next book, they're hanging up the hat.

It's not just published novelists that retire, though, and now we arrive at the heart of today's post.

Lately, there's been a spate of people retiring pre-publication. Among the reasons given? Disillusionment with who gets published and who doesn't, disillusionment with which books succeed and which fail. I'm here to say: That way, sadness and madness lie.

Do you remember back in school when you, or some other annoying kid, always pointed out to the teacher what others were doing, and the teacher would tell you to just worry about what you were doing? I had a teacher I couldn't stand who used to love saying, "Sweep your own doorstep before you sweep anyone else's." Maybe I couldn't stand her and her stupid brown shoes, but she had a point, and that point applies here.

Every time you worry about the unfairness of the publishing industry, you expend valuable energy you could be using elsewhere: like, say, improving your own work.

Of course, there will always be people who get published, that make you go, "Huh?" Of course, there will always be books that make all the bestseller lists, that make you go, "Huh?"

So what?

It's not about what other people are doing. It's about what you're doing.

And what should you be doing?

Are you writing the best book you can and revising it to the point where you can no longer find anything to improve? With each book you write, whether you sell it or not, do you learn something to carry with you when you write the next book? Do you read widely, do you also read in the area you hope to be published in, and do you do all that reading with an evaluative eye rather than a jaundiced one, so that instead of asking "Why this person and not me?" you ask "What can I learn here?"  

Every writer has moments of envy and jealousy. I've experienced those emotions myself and I've been the object of other people's as well. (Yes, I do know that there are people, each time I sell a book - and I've sold 20 since 2003 as of last week - who say, "Why her???") It's natural. It's part of being human. But me, I live by The Five-Minute Rule: I allow myself five minutes to feel whatever bile I need to and then it's back to work.

Let that bile consume you, though, let it predominate your thoughts, and no matter how talented you are, you're on your way to becoming a retired writer, maybe even before you've started.

Grow your talent, increase your opportunities by learning the publishing business, and cross your digits for luck, because it takes all of that to make it.

QUESTION OF THE DAY: NOW THAT WE ALL KNOW WHAT I THINK, WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT ALL THIS?

Before I sign off, a crowing moment, from Publishers Marketplace:

Lauren Baratz-Logsted's THE TWINS DAUGHTER, set in Victorian England when a simple knock on the door begins a series of events that will change a [teen's] life forever as she comes face to face with a bedraggled and desperate woman who looks exactly like her mother, to Melanie Cecka at Bloomsbury, in a very nice, in a two-book deal, by Pamela Harty at The Knight Agency (World).

Yeah, I'm happy about that one.

Be well. Don't forget to write.

June Casagrande

June Casagrande says:

Thank you!

Thank you for this lovely post!

You're right, that "bile" is a thief. Jealousy is a thief. It steals all your energy away from you and squanders it on "that should have been me" and "it's unfair."

I wasted so many years stuck in that place. It's much better now (one of the good things about getting older). Still, your post was a nice reminder to stay away from that place.

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

That cat!

I love that cat in your pic - thanks for the kind words!

June Casagrande

June Casagrande says:

The divine miss Maddie

Thanks for the kitty props.

You should have seen her as a baby: maddie

 

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

Aw!

No, really. AW!!!

Huntington Sharp

Huntington W. Sharp says:

Shameless plug

Lauren, I'm not too shy to recommend you check out other Red Roomers' profile photos that include animals here.

Huntington Sharp, Red Room

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

Meow!

Hey, I'm seeing more dogs than cats on that page, *mister*!

Huntington Sharp

Huntington W. Sharp says:

Not my fault

Maybe you'd like to upload a new photo that includes a feline friend, hm?

Huntington Sharp, Red Room

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

hmm...

I'm the world's biggest tech-not so I'm afraid I'll have to leave the pic-posting to others.

Randy Susan Meyers

Randy Susan Meyers says:

Keeping down the wearing of the green

Anne Lamott does a great piece on writer jealousy in BIRD BY BIRD and Elizabeth Berg covers it very sadly, though well (as in what happened between she and her best friend, when Berg published) in ESCAPING INTO THE OPEN: The Art of Writing True.

Great post--so important to remember that another's success takes nothing from our own possibilities.

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

book titles noted

I've read both authors' fiction but never their non-. To me it's like the old line, "Every time my friend succeeds I die a little death." No. Every time my friend succeeds my friend succeeds.

Tanya Egan Gibson

Tanya Egan Gibson says:

I love the analogy about the

I love the analogy about the grade-school teacher saying to keep focused on one's *own* work! (I have a 4 year old, so I find myself saying things like that a lot these days.)

Jealousy is just an energy-suck. Joy, on the other hand, is significantly underrated.

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

I never underrate joy.

Life's too short. My latest motto is: I'm going to be happy and excited about stuff until life's circumstances give me cause to feel otherwise. And yes, when we have kids, we do find ourselves starting to say the oddest things. (Unlike Amis's line about parents and kids, mine's accurate.)

Sharen Ford

Sharen Ford says:

Thank you for the timely and

Thank you for the timely and inspiring words, Lauren. As I go through my umpteenth revision, I am still surprised at all the ways there are to make a manuscript better and to learn from the process.

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

Here's to umpteenth being the charm.

You're not only a good writer, Sharen, but also a smart person. In so many ways it is the journey, not the destination. Keep going.

Jacqueline Carney

Jacqueline Carney says:

"once you do this thing

"once you do this thing called writing it becomes a permanent and indelible part of who you are."

Nicely said Lauren. And I would like to submit that doing this thing called writing--seeking out our inner selves and putting them to paper--becomes our permanent connection with other souls.

What better way is there to while away the day?

Jacqui Carney

http://wordsnwags.blogspot.com/

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

that connecting thing

You're write of course, Jacqui. Over at Book Balloon - http://www.bookballoon.com/ - this month's discussion has been about E.M. Forster's Howards End with its message of "Only connect." Even a simple post like this week's has served to make me feel so much more connected to other writers here and elsewhere.

Cat  Connor

Cat Connor says:

That teacher and her

That teacher and her horrible brown shoes was onto something!
I've never been one for the "Why them and not me" attitude, but there were times I wanted to 'retire' early!
As it happens - I'm jolly glad I hung in there. :)

Congrats on the recent sale, Lauren!!!

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

your name

Cat - is there a more perfect name in the world? Thanks for the kind words - I'm jolly glad you hung in there too!

Maureen McGowan

Maureen McGowan says:

Thanks, Lauren

Great post, Lauren. I'm someone who often feels like I should retire before I even publish, but then I snap myself out of it.

Encouragement from people like you helps. I can't let my pride get in the way of doing what I most want to do for a living.

Lauren  Baratz-Logsted

Lauren Lise Baratz-Logsted says:

M.M.

Great comments, Maureen. I've been thinking a lot lately about the need for people to get out of their own way - I know it's something I've been guilty of in the past...and probably will be again in the future!