I score 17, wonder? Am I ideal?
Never got a chance to learn an instrument, prefer to admire the flowers on the plants, well the others are a secret (tshhhh!!!) ........heheh...can's say all...mystery is chemistry.

My gawd! The above list describes hubby to a tee...now as for me, I will have to ask him.

I´d like to know what M. Hammoudi´s answer to his own question is. :-)

I think not, it sounds like the person who placed the newspaper ad is looking for those things in themselves. If not, then good luck fufilling those expectations. I am very happily married, but as I am sure you all know it, it is work! For all my husband's little quirks I am glad that he is not perfect, otherwise I would have to be perfect to! I am working on a new fiction book now and let me tell you, it takes a special person to stay with a writer......let's come clean we are all a little crazy.

Top 5 reasons I love my Husband
5. He will make dinner and do the dishes if I am on a roll with a my writing.
4. He never complains if I forgot to shower because I went straight to writing when I signed off my day job.
3. He will never touch my writing folder, or remove the many manual revisons scattered around our office.
2. He never questions my neurotic need for workshopping late into the night with my best friend who is also a writer.
1. He will go out and buy me vanilla vodka and orange juice without being asked when the rejection letters come in.

I write romance and fantasy.
And I do believe in true love and happily ever after.
Because I've experienced it.

No offense to Shakespeare or Stephenie Meyer intended, but Romeo & Juliet and Edward & Bella do not represent true love. They represent obsession. True love isn't killing yourself over someone. It is more like (if we stick to fictional stories) Jack & Rose of Titanic. Though Jack died, Rose celebrated their love by living her life to the fullest in honor of Jack.

Now, on to reality. True love is NOT about seeking and finding happiness and fulfillment through another person. If a person is not already happy and whole, even if she (or he) finds someone who makes her feel good about herself, that situation will only be temporary ... eventually what she lacks within will wear on the relationship.

To have a healthy romance, the couple needs to be able to trust and that requires a certain amount of self confidence and being secure of oneself. It requires honesty and that includes being honest with oneself. Knowing one's own faults and shortcomings.

It requires a sense of humor, including being able to laugh at oneself.

It requires unselfishness and honoring the relationship.

I married at 18.
My husband was 22.
My mother did not like him. His mother did not like me.
We've been HAPPILY married over 26 years.
I love him more today than the day I married him.

How I know this is true love:

He has never brought me flowers.
He knows I don't want them.
But he has always put me first, even ahead of his mother.

He isn't artistic. But I am.
He has always supported everything related to my writing.

His family wasn't perfect. Neither was mine.
But we started our own family and now have an adult son we are proud of, a lovely daughter in law, and two beautiful grandsons.

He sees the REAL me.
He's never tried to change me.

When our first grandson was born, our son told my husband that he hoped he would be as good a father to his son as my husband was to him. That is real love.

I was so proud of both my men that day.

Thanx Ellen, welcome to the circle!
xoxo

Remain blessed the lucky ones, for ever and ever! Luciana, Mary, Joelle, and Amber wishing you all sacks full of love.
Women who are achievers; soar high; content with life; happy and peaceful. Isn't that what we want Ellen?
These ladies make us feel so proud of womanhood!

need not say this laughter is for whom!

With the hope my delayed answer is not coming too late but promised, here it is anyway.

Replying particularly to the question, “Is she (He) very demanding?” my answer would be, “Yes” if the person is literally looking for a “soul-mate” because I can see requirements in this list that would rather suit to someone looking for a “body-mate”. Of course, things change in the moment we stop looking literally over the meaning of “soul-mate”.

Replying particularly to the question, “How many qualities among the above could you honestly provide?” my answer would be, “14±1” if it depends on my subjective opinion and not on the looking person’s, and if we take these requirements universal to both sexes.

Replying generally to the theme of the resulted discussion, obviously, it is a never-ending story like the one about the sense of life. We cannot have an absolute answer here because this refers to all and every human, and as people differ from one another, being created unique, so we can only have innumerable answers. This seems to be the end of my general submission. I can see everyone gives answers to their own questions here, so I guess I am doing the same and adding my particular ones as well.

Keeping with the simple honest manner, I shall confess that if my dreams have to hover over summarizing a certain set of features to create the imagery of the ideal mate, they would most probably sketch a list of wanted qualities as in the current topic case, maybe not that supermarket framed, but guess this approach is natural itself.

Of course, I would never forget three golden tips.

First, no matter longer or shorter that list is I would not miss putting in the key requirement, saying so, “No 1…, No 2…, No 3…, and No 101… is: I am the ideal one for him.” This is exactly as with the Golden Fish story; even if you are given only one wish to wish do not fussy too much, you can always wish to be able to wish innumerable times after the first one and all is fulfilled.

Second, I would not forget that in life, even the best drawn accounts can be perfectly beaten by a sudden unexpected reality. You can imagine something in the most ideal way only to discover that your real fulfillment has come from outside your plotted vision without even asking you first; or next.

Third, I would be aware that an “ideal mate” does not exist at least because an "ideal human" does not exist (again the same old, the truth’s absolute answer lies in its innumerable answers), and being imperfect, humans’ vision about their ideal partner is therefore imperfect too. We thus seem incapable of creating a perfect vision for our perfect partner, and consequently knowing who to seek and find. Also, finding the perfect one for oneself starts from knowing oneself, and who knows themselves in the ideal way?!...

where do you find this guy??? in a catalog??? I could think he was ideal if he just would ahve the capacity to listen to me,to take me seriously,but also be able to laugh,to know how to take care of himself,to share interests with,to love nature,canoing kayaking,swimming,etc,and to be in some way,an artist,poet,musician.to be sensitive and see the world in a creative way. The other stuff would follow..the physical stuff...because that is how it is for women.He could be the best lover in the world,but if he doesn't listen and validate her he might as well be invisible.
I had a small taste of some of the above,but held just beyond my reach,by 3000 miles.Now I know what it is I want,and the qualities of a soulmate...Now the only problem..where is he???