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Dressed up as Mr. & Mrs. Neil

October 29, 2009, 3:59 pm

Halloween was not an occasion that I looked forward to as a child.  I didn’t know “how” to set my imagination still enough to dress up with what I wanted to meet in the mirror.

One of my fondest memories of Halloween was the excitement of going out with my brothers and sisters, and over to Mr. & Mrs. Neil’s house for Trick-or-Treating. They were neighbors that lived on the cross street away from our house. We lived in a small end of the row home where all the houses had flat fronts with a single marble step that extended from the front door.  Mr. & Mrs. Neil lived in a larger porch front house.  They didn’t have any children (none that we were aware of ).  Then again, they were much older than our parents that even if they had children, they would be much older than we were.

One of my younger brothers worked after school in Ted’s Butcher Shop.  He delivered groceries and fresh meats to the Neil family with his wagon a couple times a week.  In those days, no one owned a freezer large enough to keep meats fresh for long.  My brother was friendly with the Neil family and often remarked about their kindness and generosity that they showed him.  We’d eventually come to find their warmth and welcome, too, on Halloween night!

The house usually lay very dark and quiet all through the year, with not even a single light on. There was never a feeling of distance from the Neil family, other than the message that they preferred peaceful solitude.  But for some mysterious reason; Halloween was an extraordinary time of the year for them. They opened their home for the children.  Back in those days, a simple porch light was the only sign we looked for to know that we were welcome!

We now had an open opportunity to get closer and greet them.  We’d walk up to their well kept wood steps and onto the front porch for Trick- or- Treat. I can remember as clear as if it were today, the feeling and the sound of the creaking porch floor that somewhat spooked an unknown presence all around me!  There were two wooden rocking chairs side by side and a cord of firewood that sat in the corner.  We stood on the porch for a few minutes knocking on their door before they answered.  We were the Skeleton, the Cowboy, the Indian, the Witch, the Ghost, the Hobo and the Beatnik.  With our large brown carryall bags opened wide, we joyfully greeted them with “Trick- or- Treat!”   Mr. & Mrs. Neil opened the door with delighted smiles on their faces.  We somehow knew that our presence was truly welcomed. They addressed each and every one of us and tried to guess which one we were?  We patiently stood there while we perspired under our half mask and anxiously waited for our treats. 

From outside of the doorway you could see the large bushel of apples and a huge jar with coins on their table.  You couldn’t help but notice the exceptional kindness they shown to one another as Mrs. Neil gave us an apple and Mr. Neil limped towards us to put some coins in our bags. We were young and innocent to ask “how” the limp ever came about, or ask any questions about their family.  We thought it wasn’t our place, and had SO many in our own family to concern ourselves with.

When our night came to a closing, we’d all go home and empty our bags of chocolate bars, tootsie rolls, candy corn, and apples on the kitchen table.  I didn’t have a love for candy so the treats that stood out the most were the red apples and the pennies from Mr. & Mrs. Neil.  And the most joyful surprise came from finding a nickel or a dime in the bottom of our bags!  A nickel or a dime was a small fortune to find at that time.  I was still excited, even though I didn’t find one in mine.  I’ll never forget how it felt walking on the creaking wood porch, the smell of fresh apples, and the jingle of the pennies that dropped in our bags - And most of all our warmest welcome on the porch that somewhat spooked  an unknown presence all around us.

Perhaps, the mystery of Mr. & Mrs. Neil were  Angels in our neighborhood that knew “how” to dress up and welcome every child to this wondrous presence on Halloween night.

Ryoma Collia-Suzuki

Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:

Thank you for sharing such

Thank you for sharing such delightful memories. You were very fortunate to have such a wonderful couple who lived in your neighbourhood.

Hope all is well. :)

Catherine Nagle

Catherine Nagle says:

Wondrous couple

Yes, They truly brought a presence, that I will always remember.

The older we get, we SEE the love and path to follow - that is always spooking around us!:-)

Ryoma, I truly appreciate your comments and delighted that "you" enjoyed it, too.

Happy Halloween!

Truly,
Catherine Nagle

Lisa Marie Basile

Lisa Marie Basile says:

Great Post!

I loved this! I think you really captured the spirit of children's awe on Halloween.

And, in trying to design a makeshift costume myself this Halloween I found that you said precisely what couldn't have been said any better:

"Halloween was not an occasion that I looked forward to as a child. I didn’t know “how” to set my imagination still enough to dress up with what I wanted to meet in the mirror. "

And, I giggle at the idea that children dress up, like you said, as beatniks (or hippies, or 80s). It's adorable.

Also, thank you for reading my post!
Lisa

Catherine Nagle

Catherine Nagle says:

Beautiful and Rich, indeed!

Thank you, Lisa, for taking time and reading my post, too!  I'm glad you enjoyed it.

I truly enjoyed yours: "Dancing With The Dead"  I was thrilled to see it featured on the front page of blogs.  You have captured it beautifully!

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Yes, as Jane Hammons said: Beautiful and Rich, Indeed!

( If the mirror could talk back, I think it would remind you just how wonderful you are, just the way you are, whatever you decide to wear on Halloween!:-)

Happy Halloween!

Truly, 

Catherine Nagle

Jane Hammons

Jane Hammons says:

Thanks, Catherine, for your

Thanks, Catherine, for your comment on my Halloween post. There was a time when I was embarrassed about my country childhood, and now I really treasure the memories and the way they feed my writing. I love the way you describe how the Neils "surfaced" on Halloween, making that a special time.

Catherine Nagle

Catherine Nagle says:

Childhood memories

Thank you, Jane, for stopping by and taking time to read my post. I'm glad that you enjoyed it and resonated with.

I, too, was embarrassed (at a time when I was very young) to talk about having sixteen brothers and sisters.  I now realize the richness, love, and the "specialness" that is truly out of the ordinary!  I've learned to SEE all the good that was there - And wanted to capture it in my story Imprinted Wisdom for others to appreciate their childhood memories that "regardless of what one has or has not"  remembering some good, bring us SO much farther on our journey of life.

I'm looking forward to your essay on "Perfectly Imperfect"

Truly,

Catherine Nagle