sex every day
A married couple I know told me (and several other couples at a cocktail party) that they have sex every day... sometimes twice a day or more. They are not newly married. They've been together for more than ten years. And if one of them travels they make up for it by doubling up. The woman kept saying, "What's the big deal? Why not? It's free. It's pleasurable. It's legal. It burns calories." This confession sent a ripple of shock through the party and by the end of the night set up a neighborhood challenge. (More about that later... maybe). But I still can't stop thinking about it and I'm wondering what you all think. Is this for real? Am I the only who feels inadequate here?
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Jessica Barksdale Inclan says:
aren't there two books out
aren't there two books out right now with this "challenge" or "strategy" in mind? The keep your marriage fresh and interesting strategy? I think I saw one of the authors on Good Morning America (I write I think because I was working out, and all such information is spurious at the gym). they had sex every day for 100 days. I didn't buy the book, and they did not keep up with their practice after the 100 days.
J
Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com
Gail Konop Baker says:
We talked about those books
We talked about those books that night and my freind said, "100 days? That's nothing!" Seriously, they've been doing this for 10 years straight!
Jessica Barksdale Inclan says:
I don't quite believe it
but if they are doing it, doing it, doing it, go couple, go. Remember the old saying, "Make love, not war."
J
Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com
Gail Konop Baker says:
good point, Jessica. I DO
good point, Jessica. I DO think it's true I'm just trying to understand how you sustain the every day for so many years...
Kristy Kiernan says:
:-)
I wouldn't say I feel inadequate.
Lazy maybe, but not inadequate.
I'm happy for these challenges that have become popular lately. The more people have sex the less disagreeable they are on a daily basis. Looking forward to hearing how the challenge goes, Gail ;-D
Gail Konop Baker says:
You know me I'm always up
You know me I'm always up for a challenge... last summer it was the half-marathon...
sonshi (not verified) says:
Tasteless
I never understood why some couples feel the need to advertise how and how often they have sex. Call me old-fashioned but the act of sex is an expression of love between two individuals, not an exercise or a contest open to the public. Close the door, please.
Gail Konop Baker says:
I'm sorry Thomas if I
I'm sorry Thomas if I offended you. I wasn't planning to discuss graphic details of their sex lives just wanted to discuss the concept of sex in marriage and how it changes over the years. And why. Again, I apologize.
sonshi (not verified) says:
Gail
I wasn't directing my message specifically toward you. You didn't do anything wrong to apologize so I should have qualified my message at the very beginning. Sorry. It was a general statement toward people like your friend (and a recent NY Times article I read about the couple who challenged themselves to have XXX number of days of sex. Why don't they go a little bit further and set up cameras, too?).
Therefore I wasn't offended as much as I'm shocked about how some people share too much information about themselves. I'm a liberal and open-minded about things. Yes, let's discuss the issue of having sex every day but perhaps there are lines we shouldn't cross like how often each of us, personally, have sex and with who. I believe that's a private, special, wonderful matter that you and your spouse/partner share, no one else.
I also believe sex has been relegated to a form of exercise, seemingly devoid of the indescribable closeness you experience with your partner. Because if it's about genuine intimacy, a person wouldn't be talking about quantity but rather quality. In other words, you get together when you get together. Why make a big fuss about it?
Gail Konop Baker says:
Thanks for explaning that,
Thanks for explaning that, Thomas. The part that fascinated me was the widespread disbelief and shock among the other married couples and how people couldn't stop talking about it. I do appreciate you sharing your opinion.
sonshi (not verified) says:
Thanks. You should have
Thanks. You should have seen the photo that the NY Times showed. The "challenge" couple on their bed in their night clothes. For all the world to see. To me that's just tasteless. I was then expecting another photo in the back sextion of what they look like afterwards. :-)
Wendy Babiak says:
I agree!
I agree with Thomas, that I would find it uncomfortable to be talking about my sex life at a party,or talking with this couple about theirs. But also, Gail, that the disbelief seems unwarranted and a little strange.
At an anonymous forum I had once mentioned that my husband and I have a very active and satisfying sex life, and I was called a liar. And told that if I wasn't lying, we were pathologically addicted to sex. Huh? Where did the perception that married folk don't have good sex come from? Or that, worse, we shouldn't?
Abdelwahab Hammoudi says:
Sexoholics!
Ever heard of sexoholics?There is addiction in this area too.
I've posted two blogs on this:
1)Sex
2)The Bulemia and the alien.
Maybe the 'll give some light.
Hammoudi