Blog Posts for Jessica Barksdale Inclan

Offerring Up

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:39:11 -0800

In one of her blogs yesterday, the one entitled "Living Through Difficult Times," Fiona Robyn wrote the following, quoting as she did: "The third thing is something I read in a Buddhist magazine - a quote by Reverend Master Daishin. He said, "What comes is a gift as it shows us what we need to offer." This last word wasn't what I expected, and it took me by surprise. ...

Tonight on the Blogsphere!

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 10:25:29 -0800

Okay folks--it's radio time!I know that many of you have been interviewed on many fine blog based interview shows, but tonight will be my first. I wil be on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/phoebe-jordan from 6-7.30 PST time , tonight, Thursday February 19th. Phoebe is a member here on redroom.com, and a real supporter of all things romance.Call 347-857-2123, and just give me some grief. ...

Watching Love Story

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 05:58:44 -0800

Last night after a nice but busy and often physical grueling day (yard work in the afternoon--see me with a bow saw and watch out!), I sat in front of the television and watched Love Story as the lentil soup cooked.I don't know when I saw Love Story for the first time. It came out in 1970, when I was going on nine, though I know I read the book (found it under my mother's bed). I remember ...

If I Could Do It Over (And I'm Glad I Can't)

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 07:17:37 -0800

I never really thought of myself as a big wuss, a whiner, a person unable to take pain. Hell, I gave birth the old fashioned way, and one of those babies weighed ten pounds, twelve ounces. Sure, I screamed, "Get it the hell out" at one point, but then the minute he was born, I was right as rain, except for the stitches.I've broken wrists and fingers and fallen off a galloping ...

Learning to Cut (Not Recommended)

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 06:20:34 -0800

One of the bon mots a teacher tossed out to me once was, "Readers love to learn as they read. Teach them something. But don't let it show."So true. And, the teacher went on, it doesn't have to be rocket science. It can be the way to make an origami crane (actually, that might be rocket science), the best way to wash a cast iron pot, eat a corned beef sandwich ten inches high, ...

Behind the Picture Frame

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 07:10:45 -0800

We don't like what's real, at least initially. The house goes on the market and we take off the screens, expecting no one to notice, expecting prospective buyers to believe that no bugs fly thisaway. The house is pristine, a wall of glass looking out to the horizon unperturbed, a single eye from which to view the future.When we put an ad on Match.com, we don't write, "I'm slightly ...

The Bottom of the Pot

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 07:26:25 -0800

Michael and I belong to a club, a cooking club, made up mostly of our really good friends. So it doesn't have that element of "clubness" to it, members only folks seen on club nights. Really, it's more of just a monthly party to which we bring food or cook food. Last night, we were to bring a Persian dish, already prepared When we got the call for the food of choice (the host ...

The Accouting system of the Universe

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 08:09:08 -0800

I don't have proof or a chart or a grid to prove my feeling, but I do believe in karma or the return of the energy that we sow in the world. We reap what we put out there. We give and we get. What we do can come back to haunt or reward us. There is an accounting page in the universe, somewhere, and things balance out.Most days, I think we try to forget this while at the same time trying ...

What We Get

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 08:13:00 -0800

One thing that does not get divided--that is not mentioned in any divorce settlement--is extended family members. No lawyer will ask you to fill out a worksheet that lists the people the couple "owns" together (other than children, but that's another story) and then later try to figure out who gets whom. There is no wrangling over mothers and fathers and sisters. There is no ...

A Bad Exit Strategy

Jessica Barksdale Inclan — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:04:18 -0800

The world is cyclical, moving from one state to another and then back again. Sometimes, these movements take someone to push the first boulder down the hill. Then all of us push and push and at the end of it all--all of us glowing and sweaty and happy and uplifted--we look back up the hill and think, I want to go there. Up is the answer! How did we miss it?We pull our boulders up and up ...