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Jewelle Gomez Lesbian/feminist/speculative fiction author & cultural worker

If Ted Kennedy had known Del Martin...

August 27, 2009, 6:05 pm

...everything would be just fine by now. 

It's the one year anniversary of Del's passing.  She was one of the foremost activists in the lesbian feminist movement and she finally married (twice)  her partner, Phyllis Lyon, after 52 years, before conservatives stole our rights back.  Her book written with Phyllis, "Lesbian Woman" saved the lives and shaped the politics of an entire generation of activists and writers.

I grew up in Boston so the Kennedy boys, as my (and most people's) grandmother called them were intrinsic to our landscape.  The remnants of the virulent discrimination the Irish suffered in Boston was laced through their tenacity and determination; but most people didn't think about that.  Most only related to the affluence of the Kennedy family.  Living well is the best revenge---that and giving back.  They did that.

They were never anywhere near perfect...and I hope we aren't so infantile we need perfect leaders.  Just as Obama isn't perfect.  The perfection is in the learning how to make yourself and the world better.  Ted said at the 1980 Democratic convention something like: "one generation's answers become the questions of the next generation."

Having those two as my teachers, my role models is a great gift.  There's a tumbling collection of truths spiralling out from Del and Ted and many others who've searched for answers to human rights issues. 

May their answers turn into questions that each succeeding generation wants to step up and try to answer.  It's in the learning that life is lived.

Candie White

Candie White says:

Well said...

Well said...

Jewelle Gomez

Jewelle Gomez says:

thanks

It is a whole new world isn't it.  Thanks for the wonderful story about your mother.  Being a Catholic growing up in Boston when JFK was elected it was a huge deal for us when he was inaugurated.  And not repeated for me until this past inauguration! 

Dawna Cosme

Dawna Cosme says:

I can see why...

Hi. It is evident through your writing of this article, why you have received accolades for your work. I visited your home page, and am impressed with your literary journey and history, or should I say herstory. I enjoyed this piece and look forward to reading more of your material during my research and just because I can. Thank you for your presence on this planet. Nice to say hello. Namaste'.

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