Reality bites.. or does it?
I see myself as a very realistic person, but a realism that has a sprinkle of optimism and hope that is a permanent feature after realising years ago that laying the firm foundations of success has a lot to do with good planning, energy, determination, hard work and belief. And perhaps, a bit of luck.
I am not blind to the issues we face. We, as a country, as an economy, have problems.
Unfortunately, the brand of realism that I hear and see everyday seems more like sensationalism and mass hysteria than the bare truth. Statistics, gossip and 'sage' words from self-proclaimed experts of the industry that say that armageddon has arrived and, basically, this is the end of business civilization as we know it.
The other day, I heard a news person claiming, with a voice filled with mock, dramatic concern (whilst obviously very pleased that they had a leading story to report), that 1-in-6 people in the UK are now unemployed, followed by reams of other statistics that were reeled off with the joy of someone reading out lottery numbers while they had the winning ticket. Blimey, even my heart sunk as I thought for a split second that I had no chance at this rate. And then I was angry. Angry at myself for letting myself buy into the 'realism' that the media have been swimming around in, the poisonous fear that has poisoned almost everyone I meet.
Yes, things are bad, especially when viewed en-masse. But each person can make a difference, imho. Buck the trend, I say. Stand up and be counted. DO something about it!
There are hundreds of thousands (at least!) of vacancies available in the UK. Not all business sectors are failing, and, as a matter of fact, the largest private sector employer in the UK has been making several tens of millions of pounds clear profit consistently throughout this recession. Whilst many business are struggling and even failing, other businesses are growing and being profitable. There is a balance, albeit tipped towards the negative, but it is certainly not the end of the world.
I want one job. One. Not hundreds of thousands, LOL! I am doing everything I can to set myself apart. It's working. I will get the one job that I want.
Doesn't a lot of this also have parallel's with selling books? The market has changed significantly. Independent bookstores are closing, larger ones are looking for ways to cut costs and compete with on-line discounts. It is a much more cost driven market than before. If you want negative statistics, just search online, it won't take you long to find info that might make you go cold.
On the other hand, working as a team at book signings, Gina and myself have noticed how busy the stores are. How many people walk around with new books, piled high in their arms, as they wander the stores for treasures to take home. Our proactive approach has meant that we are selling full-priced books from a non-celebrity author, while sitting amongst the many signs that show special offers selling best sellers from household names. All but one book signing has been a true success, and even with that one, the bookseller was amazed that we sold what we did as the store was an apparent black hole for all book signings.
If you, dear reader, find that any of this resonates with you, in any way, I hope you won't listen to the en-masse statistics anymore, don't let 'them' get you down. You can make a difference. You'll feel better for it, you'll get yourself noticed, you will learn from it and, hopefully, you will get the results you want from your actions.
Believe in yourself and just get on with it. It works. :)
"A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. An optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Winston Churchill
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Mary Wilkinson says:
Ryoma, it's the same thing
Ryoma, it's the same thing here. I refuse to listen to the radio anymore, something I always enjoyed. Your attitude is fantastic, positive and encouraging. Thanks. M
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Thanks, Mary.
Thanks for reading, posting and your kind words, Mary. :) I really believe that a difference can be made, a huge one actually.
Hope you are having a lovely day, Mary. :)
Keiko Amano says:
Ryoma, Yep, I agree: you
Ryoma,
Yep, I agree: you just want one job, one job only. You're not asking many, not even two or three. Just one. It shouldn't be difficult. It doesn't need to come on a velvet cushion like Cindrella's glass shoe. You can go and pick it up. One job must be available somewhere. I'm sure.
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Hi Keiko. :)
Thanks for posting and commenting. I agree, no Cinderella's glass shoe needed here! LOL! I don't think it would go with my suit and tie... unless is was a dark grey one. Hehehe.
Yes, there is one job out there for me, just need to find it. :)
Mary Wilkinson says:
You will, they'll be lucky
You will, they'll be lucky to have you!
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Thanks you so very much
Thanks you so very much Mary. :)
Quenntis Ashby says:
I'm happy
I live in Taiwan in a bubble of happiness. The most important people to me are my wife and my son. We're a family, and that's the strongest business in the world. We all have jobs: husband father wife mother son...
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Hi Quenntis
It's so good to know you are so happy. :)
I couldn't agree with you more. It should go without saying, that the ones we love are the priority, above all other people, matters in life, work, money, anything. For me, without Gina, there is no life and no desire to 'be'.
Desire is something I keep meaning to blog about. Without desire, do we, as human beings, have the ability to achieve anything at all? I keep pondering this. :)
Thanks for posting. :)
Quenntis Ashby says:
Desire
Desire and ambition are the driving force behind many people. It is difficult to rate achievements based on desire. I think a lot of our abilities to achieve anthing have a lot to do with luck and opportunity. But it's still better to have dreams and desires than to live without them...
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Desire at it's most basic level
I have been thinking about desire in it's most basic form. The desire to eat for pleasure rather than just for sustenance, to wake up and want to do 'something' and not just wake because sleep is no longer an option, to want to engage in discussions rather than just responding if spoken to, to be open to entertainment and not write everything off as inconsequential, desire to experience the wonders that our senses can bring, such as the smell of flowers, the touch of a breeze, the sight of stars, the sound of the sea, etc, etc.
It occurred to me as I watched people shopping in town, the differences in their demeanor, some so disinterested in life as if someone had sucked the will to live right out of them. There was no desire to live, just living because they are alive. Very sad.
Yes, I feel that desire is very important to people in order to live a life worth living.
Quenntis Ashby says:
Ah, yes, I see
That makes a lot of sense. Achievements don't have to be major successes. Enjoying the moment because you choose to take part in it is also an achievement of desire. That hits the nail on the head!
Rebbecca Hill says:
Hi Ryoma, great discussion!
Hi Ryoma, great discussion! I try not to pay too much attention to the news and media simply because it feels like negative energy and the picture they paint never feels like the truth, as you have pointed out. I don’t totally ignore it. I try to find balance in all of it, and of course, sometimes one can fall off course. :)
On desire…yes, I see “differences in [people’s] demeanor” too. Even at work, when I walk by some people in the courtyard, no smile from them. They look serious or without some bit of passion inside. I feel bad though and still smile back, even if it’s not returned. Often, I walk around with a smile, and it feels good when I look up and someone smiles back. Smiling feels so good, and didn’t I hear or read somewhere that it takes more muscles and effort to frown than to smile? I could not imagine a life in which I didn’t look up at the sky and the trees and thank them and the Sun for a beautiful day; and I couldn’t imagine not laughing at the crow with his bull-dog walk and hearing his boisterous ca-cow, ca-cow, picking away at the morsels on the ground; or the colorful flowers planted in their pots outside of buildings for aesthetic pleasure.
And I’ve often heard people planning all the things they will do once they are retired, the books they will read, or the classes they will take. And I ask, well, why not now? Why wait? It’s interesting that people often get sucked into a way of life that is dictated by exterior factors—expectations from family, friends, society, etc., rather than what feels true within themselves. It also amazes me that from what I gather from observing, is that some people often don’t finally free themselves to find this “within” until old age.
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Hi Rebbecca
Thanks for reading and posting. :)
It's so sad to hear stories or to know people who have waited their entire lives to embrace life, and then we hear of them leaving this life, either by accident, illness or just naturally.
I don't think I've been in danger of that happening, but I do know that I had an additional reminder of how fragile life is, and how precious our time together is, when Gina nearly died very suddenly in January 2007. That was a serious wake up call. One that I'm grateful for learning from.
Keiko Amano says:
Rebb, The last paragraph
Rebb,
The last paragraph caught my eye. I agree with you. I had similar questions and all the answers sounded excuses.
Rebbecca Hill says:
Ryoma, yes, it is sad to
Ryoma, yes, it is sad to hear or read stories of people that sometimes wait too long before embracing life; or maybe because of their circumstances, they don't feel there is any other way. I'm glad to hear that you were gifted with the reminder of how fragile life is, and that Gina survived. That would be too heavy for my heart to handle. Life does work in amazing ways...
Keiko, interesting... questions/excuses. I wonder why it is that we often become frozen by our fears, fear to dive into life and all its wonderment. It makes me briefly think of a time when I was seeing a student therapist long ago and he felt that I partially suffered from a "fear of failure." Is that why we sometimes stop instead of act? Are either afraid of fear itself or afraid that we may succeed? Hmmm. Interesting...
Sumathi Mohan says:
That was touching! Ryoma
It was like surfing the Ocean, with skill and courage, yet the nagging fear, chilling and biting into the skin!
The far away light in the darkness gives little warmth, yet it stays as a star guiding ones path towards destination.
All one has to do is focus at that single guiding star and the pebbles and thorns will matter not when the going goes rough.
Stay focused buddy, you will make it. Boomerang!
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Dear Sumathi
That is beautiful... and so true! I love it and thank you for sharing. What wonderful imagery to describe what I was trying to say! Thank you.
I also agree, 'Boomerang!', what goes around, comes around. :)
Ellen R. Sheeley says:
Ryoma, I don't follow the
Ryoma, I don't follow the news as closely as I once did. Maybe I will return to it when this global meltdown is behind us. But right now I feel much as you do. It's just too negative. We have turned into a bunch of whiners.
Yes, there are some structural problems with the economy and the global financial system. But most markets are also a result of consumer and investor psychology, which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If everyone thinks the world is going to hell in a handbasket, then it will. If not, then eventually they will get out there and spend and invest and behave as though the future will be bright. The media are trading in the former because that is what sells.
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Hi Ellen,
Thanks for posting. Well, you know it, I agree with you completely. Ah well, it'll all blow over and then we start again. Until then, I'll keep slogging away! With a smile (or grimace) on my face. LOL!
Raymond Mallette says:
A philisophical Outlook!
Bravo!
You, whether you admit it or not, ARE in fact, a writer. The views you expressed are well taken. I totally agree with you. I mentioned "Karma" earlier, and how strong it feels today.
Unemployed since January of this year, I go about applying, interviewing, and sending out resumes in huge quantitities, but all the while managing to be in a "good mood." This "mood" is often questioned by relatives that coninually ask, "how can you possibly be so up-beat?" My response, much like that of Quenntis Ashby, is simply, "I have my wife, and I have my son. I have been at the bottom, and as long as I have them, I'll never be there again." I once asked the man upstairs (and no, I'm not dumping religion on anyone.....for I have not been to church myself in over ten years, but I have my beliefs) to please help me. He did. I asked, and he answered. I think he and I have a fairly good rapport. He granted that wish, and for that, I shall be eternally grateful. Everything else that I am able to achieve, will be a bonus. I interviewed on Monday and am expecting a call today or tomorrow. Crossing the fingers. I leave you with a quotation I read in a book of ancient Kung-Fu Philosophy.
"In life, we may amass ten thousand pieces of silver, yet in death, we cannot take with us, even a single copper penny."
I have faith in your abilities my friend! Be well!
Raymond
Ryoma Collia-Suzuki says:
Hi Raymond
Thank you for such a generous and positive response. I wish you the very best in your hunt for a new job too. I don't know if some of the things that I am doing to differentiate myself might give you some ideas (if you aren't doing them already). I did a post about it and, funnily enough, most of what I learned to do was not from my 23 years in sales, it actually came from helping Gina to market her books. The link to the blog is http://www.redroom.com/blog/ryoma-collia-suzuki/how-get-a-job-marketing-...