Synopsis:

 Newly Divorced Book of Protocol: How To Be Civil When You Hate Their Guts offers a real no-holds-barred look at divorce and its consequences. It is the handbook of the 90's that the divorcee should in reality be joined with, "till death do you part." With over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, and the vast majority of people touched by divorce, this book is important reading.

Like talking to a dear friend, "The Newly Divorced Book of Protocol" is packed with understanding and empathy. This book has answers to your stickiest questions. Ready to learn how to survive a divorce without life being turned upside down, taking POW's, or being victimized by your divorce attorney or soon to be ex-spouse? Gloria Lintermans takes you gently by the hand and leads you with sensitivity and common sense through every stage of separation, divorce, and healing.

Newly Divorced Book of Protocol: How To Be Civil When You Hate Their Guts, by syndicated columnist, Gloria Lintermans, is rich with sound advice for successfully dealing with divorce problems. For example:

The ins and outs of dating again

Is it possible, and how, to keep your old "couple" friends

Your relationship with your, even their, family

Having sex with your ex

How to care for yourself

How to ensure support money will be collected when it's due

What are the realities of child custody and caring for kids

Will they be emotionally damaged forever

Grandparents concerns for their children, grandchildren, and themselves

How grandparents can help

This is only a very small sampling of the many concerns dealt with in this book. Take a closer look inside the book that is sure to share your story, even help you survive.

Book Excerpt:

 

THE NEWLY DIVORCED BOOK OF PROTOCOL

TABLE OF CONTENTS

PART ONE: DETACHMENT

THE SECRET

You know it.  You spouse probably knows it.  You're just not ready to know it together.

STRADDLING THE DOORSTEP

Home isn't an "in-'n'-out burger place.

PARALYZING FEAR

THE MOMENT OF TRUTH

Tension beyond belief - something has to give.  Who's pretending anyway.

RELIEF  - EUPHORIA - TERROR

You told and didn't die.  You're in control again.  Life is good.  but, now you really do have to leave.

THE LEAVER AND THE LEFT

Yes, it does make a difference.  It's called self-esteem.

CRIME AND PUNISHMENT/SUPPORT WITHDRAWAL

What's uncle's ninetieth party did you say you'd go it?  Had a bad day at the office, honey? 

Too bad.  Had a fender bender on the way home?  Oh, well.

SHOCK

Never, ever did you consider the possibility that this could happen to you.

SOCIAL OBLIGATIONS

Are you or aren't you a couple?

SEXUAL AVAILABILITY

You're still having sex with who!?

EMOTIONAL ACCESSIBILITY

You want what?

FEELING ISOLATED

No one's ever gone through what you're going through or felt so alone.

ATTACKS ON SELF- ESTEEM

Going blond, getting breast implants, buying a whole new wardrobe.  Getting hair implants, etc.

STAYING ATTACHED.

No matter what the reality, home is where your heart is.

FEELING GUILTY AND KIDS

You probably should.  It's okay.

KIDS AS PROPERTY

Kids as bargaining chips.

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS

Think they don't know something's going on?  They're scared and confused, too.

WHAT TO TELL THE KIDS

A three-year-old's not a fifteen-year-old.

HOW TO TELL THE KIDS

Together.

KIDS AND DATING

Understanding and reassurance.

WHEN MARRIAGE ENDS AND DIVORCE BEGINS

Closure, focus, new beginnings.

PART TWO: SEPARATION

LAWYER, YOURS, MINE OR OURS

Are you really saving money by using one attorney, or is one of you getting shortchanged.

WHO AM I?

When half of a whole feels like zero.

CHANGES IN SOCIAL ROLE

When a mother's no longer a wife.

THE IFS

No, it wouldn't have made a difference.

FATHERS' CHANGING ROLE

Distance?

MOTHERS' CHANGING ROLE

Overwhelming responsibility.

CUSTODY

Creating a new family framework.

VISITATION AND OTHER RULES

Hey Dad, just drop by whenever -- who needs privacy.

WITHHOLDING VISITATION

Playing Fair.  Kids aren't hostages.

LONELINESS

Maybe it wasn't so bad after all.

FAMILY HOLIDAYS

Make it special for you and your kids.

PAIN, GUILT, JOY, ANGER, SELF-REPROACH, RELIEF, DISTRESS, EUPHORIA

An emotional roller coaster.

TELLING THE FAMILY

Possibly the worst moment of your life.  Owning up to failure.

TELLING AND THE CUSTODY OF FRIENDS

Yours, mine, ours.

THE FAMILY

Who are we now?

SCHOOL FUNCTIONS

Not appropriate for casual dates.

RELIGIOUS FUNCTIONS

The new family that prays together, stays together.

CHILD SUPPORT

Or lack of.

SPOUSAL SUPPORT

Why is he trying so hard to get you married off?

THE QUALITY OF THE POST MARTIAL RELATIONSHIP

Good, bad, hard on the kids?

PART THREE: A NEW BALANCE

ENDINGS AS NEW BEGINNINGS

There is a choice.

RELATIONSHIP WITH EX-SPOUSE

A workable truce.

RELATIONSHIP WITH GRANDPARENTS, FORMER IN-LAWS AND FAMILY.

Kids only?

STARTING OVER

Who knows, life might even get better.

RELATIONSHIP WITH FORMER FRIENDS - WITHDRAWAL

One - rallying to your side.  Two - envy, admiration, curiosity, fear (of divorce as a communicable disease).  Three - gone.

EX-SPOUSE AS PRESENT LOVER

Staying stuck.

MAINTAINING COMMUNICATION WITH KIDS

It's your job, even when they're at his or her house.  Even when their new significant other might answer. DATING

When is dating like bungee jumping?  Now.

NEW FAMILY STRUCTURE

Who's the boss?

SOCIAL OBLIGATIONS INVOLVING CHILDREN

Yes, the kids still need parents.

LIFE - POST DIVORCE

Even better.

RESOURCES

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Topics/Categories:

caring dor children during divorce, child custody, children of divorce, Divorce

Genre:

Advice, Self-Help

Type of Work:

Book

Publishers:

Barricade Books

Original Publish Date:

1995-01-01

ISBNs:

1569800375

Formats:

Hardcover